Day 2: Passive Aggressive = Not the way to go!

I've noticed a trend. When I try to center this blog around my life, it just doesn't work out, meaning I just eventually stop posting when I get sad or whatever. So what I'm trying to do is just bring some ideas, topics, and whatever I notice--right here to this blog. I think it will be more fun, more fun, and a bit less dark at some points. No worries, you'll get life updates too just.. not everyday. I just want to take the blog in a more sustainable direction.

Have you ever had a friend, associate, or acquaintance that you've seen mentally explode? One minute they are fine and dandy and next minute they've turned into a Charizard and are coming at you (or anyone else)?

Okay, that's an extreme case but what I'm trying to ask is if you know people who tend to be passive aggressive in the way they handle situations.

I'll give an example:
Say within your circle of friends there is a particular person that, on occasion, gets on, say, two people's nerves. When this said person, it not around the two, all they do is complain about how frustrated they are with the said person. I mean it's okay to be upset with a friend and not address each and every issue when there is a problem but when it becomes a HABIT to complain about the said person-- it's time to put your foot down.

If all the two people do is talk about the said person and comment on how annoying they could be, the situation could be fixed if something as simple as a talk, just nipping the situation in the bud before it goes into full bloom.

OF COURSE this isn't that simple.. because you either don't want to bring up petty things or don't want to come off the wrong way but personally I think the best way to handle it all is to be honest. It's fair to both you and the other party and it could help make your relationship with the person a healthy one. Just make sure it's done in a civil and calm way, try not to get flustered or too upset.

Especially if the issue is something that neither of you can change: Say, if you are mad because some people like person X and they want to hang out with person X all the time and not you. --  That is not person X's fault for being liked, and you getting upset at that means that you need to figure out why you feel that way and changing that attitude. I hope that didn't come off the wrong way -- But I'm trying to say it isn't person X's fault.

I'm not saying that.. I follow all these guidelines all the time - we are human and we all make mistakes and I have made all of these above. But I made steps towards changing the way I handle situations with people -- whether I had to cut a person out of my life, address a certain issue with a friend, or become less insecure about myself.

Try it out.. you'll smile a bit more. Fuck this was long.
The main reason why I say this is because.. I'm just afraid that because of this type of behavior...a big rift has been created within a friend circle of mine. It's really sad and I wish I could help out but I'm not trying to overstep any boundaries (and they are all mega busy..or maybe I'm getting the cold shoulder now). I hope things do get sorted out because this can all be solved. Let's just be friends and smile, cry and laugh--not complain, talk about and ignore each other-- it's just not right.

Have a nice day! =)